Minor updates...

[johno]

Been very busy in my personal and work life lately, so not much in the way of "real" posts lately.

Not a "real life" update, but some stuff that has changed in my online life.


A couple of weeks ago I hit the big 750. Yep, I tried to add friend #751 and the system said "Oh, no you don't."
Cleaned up some broken/dead RSS feeds & communities, and finally removed some user accounts that I know have moved on to using other account names. Back down to the 720 range now.


I've turned off IM forwarding to my mobile phone for all the IM services I use.
I've been missing messages or getting them very late, and I can't reply to them on my phone.

If I'm off-line, leave me a message and it'll pop up next time I log in.

Note: I prefer Yahoo, but sometimes have AIM, ICQ, MSN, & Skype running as well. (ids in my userinfo)


I met someone at a party who knew me from LJ, but had not friended me because other folks would unfriend me, if they saw she had friended me.

Normally I avoid drama, but what the hell, I've friended the person I was talking to. I wonder who'll be among the first to drop me as a friend???

Comments

[mrlogic.livejournal.com]

What I'm saying is, I would not cut off someone with whom I was already friendly on the basis of some other friend they might have. It's not necessary for me to be friends with (or even not to despise) someone else's friends in order for me to like that person.

I don't believe in the mindset that says "You are betraying me by being friends with X, so I am not going to like you any more." That's hate-breeding crap and I refuse to get involved with it.

[knaveofhearts.livejournal.com]

It might change how I think of a friend of mine in some ways, but I can't see totally stopping being friends with me. I might question their choices (to myself and possibly to them) but I can't imagine someone so horrible that a friend could friend that would cause me to bolt.

I agree that the mindset you describe is toxic. I'm going through a mostly-amicable divorce, and I have seen much of what you describe. It is very familiar to me, and frankly whenever I see it, it disappoints me again and again -- in the specific individuals involved, and in humanity in general.