Minor updates...

[johno]

Been very busy in my personal and work life lately, so not much in the way of "real" posts lately.

Not a "real life" update, but some stuff that has changed in my online life.


A couple of weeks ago I hit the big 750. Yep, I tried to add friend #751 and the system said "Oh, no you don't."
Cleaned up some broken/dead RSS feeds & communities, and finally removed some user accounts that I know have moved on to using other account names. Back down to the 720 range now.


I've turned off IM forwarding to my mobile phone for all the IM services I use.
I've been missing messages or getting them very late, and I can't reply to them on my phone.

If I'm off-line, leave me a message and it'll pop up next time I log in.

Note: I prefer Yahoo, but sometimes have AIM, ICQ, MSN, & Skype running as well. (ids in my userinfo)


I met someone at a party who knew me from LJ, but had not friended me because other folks would unfriend me, if they saw she had friended me.

Normally I avoid drama, but what the hell, I've friended the person I was talking to. I wonder who'll be among the first to drop me as a friend???

Comments

[lysana.livejournal.com]

I met someone at a party who knew me from LJ, but had not friended me because other folks would unfriend me, if they saw she had friended me.

Oy. Some people have way too much time on their hands.

[johno.livejournal.com]

I avoid drama, but sometimes I play with scorpions and bring drama to me.

[atreyu73.livejournal.com]

I've often had somewhat incestuous friend circles where this kind of drama could present itself. Friends who were friends with exes and the likes.

At first I troubled with how to deal with those people when I wanted to have a party or gathering... do I have multiple gatherings, do I just not have any at all, do I invite everyone?

Finally, I just settled on my, "Screw it. I like being me" philosophy and I'd just invite everybody whom I wanted to be there and make sure everybody knew who was invited. If they showed up, I expected no drama and if they didn't show up because of somebody else on the invite list then that's their problem not mine.

There's so much potential for drama in the world, I figure as long as I don't take it personally and make people in my life clear I won't put up with it, then at least it'll be fairly minimal.

So far so good :)

[johno.livejournal.com]

Our way of inviting folks too.

We also learned a long time ago to not check to hard for conflicts, because we would go crazy trying to find a hole in all our friend's schedules.

We pick a date 6-8 weeks away, that avoids major events (cons, regular parties, etc, etc) Announce it our friends and send out invites 3-5 weeks in advance.

Sometime we get hordes, because nothing else is going on. Other times, such as our last party, the crowd is fairly small, as it turns out there were several other events the same day.

[mrlogic.livejournal.com]

Pff...anyone who would judge whether they wanted to be friends with me based on whom I'm friends with, I probably don't need as a friend.

Square that when basing judgments on LJ-friend status. Pah.

[knaveofhearts.livejournal.com]

There is a certain value in knowing whether I am friends (or friendly) with the friends of potential friends. I'm not saying it should be a categorial pass/fail sort of test, but it does have much of the same basic value as any other compatibility test.

[mrlogic.livejournal.com]

What I'm saying is, I would not cut off someone with whom I was already friendly on the basis of some other friend they might have. It's not necessary for me to be friends with (or even not to despise) someone else's friends in order for me to like that person.

I don't believe in the mindset that says "You are betraying me by being friends with X, so I am not going to like you any more." That's hate-breeding crap and I refuse to get involved with it.

[knaveofhearts.livejournal.com]

It might change how I think of a friend of mine in some ways, but I can't see totally stopping being friends with me. I might question their choices (to myself and possibly to them) but I can't imagine someone so horrible that a friend could friend that would cause me to bolt.

I agree that the mindset you describe is toxic. I'm going through a mostly-amicable divorce, and I have seen much of what you describe. It is very familiar to me, and frankly whenever I see it, it disappoints me again and again -- in the specific individuals involved, and in humanity in general.

[therobbergirl.livejournal.com]

I met someone at a party who knew me from LJ, but had not friended me because other folks would unfriend me, if they saw she had friended me.

Wow, that's um, um, just um.

[bovil.livejournal.com]

Normally I avoid drama, but what the hell, I've friended the person I was talking to. I wonder who'll be among the first to drop me as a friend???

You're really evil. That or she's foolish. Or maybe both...

It's not like your "also friend of" list is that long (it's not collapsed) but I feel sorry for anybody who has to look through your whole friends list to find this new person so they can determine whether they hate her enough to de-friend you.

[succ33d.livejournal.com]

Wow, that is crazy that you have that many friends on your list!! Do you ever get a chance to read all their entries and stuff??

I think it's stupid that she doesn't want to 'friend' you. So what? She sounds immature to me.

[johno.livejournal.com]

Filters, filters and more filters.

Friends groups for a core group of folk I want to make sure I keep up with, photo comms, general comms, news feeds, comics, etc, etc.

[paprica.livejournal.com]

As one of the 750 friends you have who has never posted in your journal before, I'd like to say that I'm not even willing to wade through your other 750 friends to see who this person might possibly be. What a weird thing to say. And how odd of her to believe she has so much power that she thinks most of the 750 people who might possibly like you on your own merit would just suddenly drop you because of her. Does she have Borderline Personality Disorder? Still, I think it's groovy of you to make the experiment and friend her.

And, completely off topic, but out of curiosity, is there some reason you haven't downloaded Trillian or some other multiple client chat program yet?

I also am curious about whether you manage to read all 750 of your friends on anything like a regular basis.

[johno.livejournal.com]

She gave me very specific reasons, but I was purposly vague on the details. Besides I'm long time tweaker of noses.

I do use trillian, but prefer the Yahoo interface. If I'm logged into any of the other services, I'm most likely logged into them all.

I make heavy use of filters, core folks I make sure to read, photo groups, communities, comics, news feeds, etc, etc.